I made it very clear in my post that I was only interested in women, but a large number of men chose to ignore that. They all offered oral sex. I responded to them politely, saying, "Just interested in women, but thanks for the offer! Have a good one. I began to suspect that no women actually used the site. The stereotype is that women are interested in relationships, and that only men would be interested in totally casual sex, right?
We know that's not true, though. In fact, I was inspired to write this article when a friend told me many of her female friends had owned up to using it.
Over the next couple of days, I actually received a lot of posts from women. Or at least, they said they were women. To be honest, I doubted the veracity of the claims. It didn't take long to realize that almost all the replies I received were scams. The situation is so severe on Craigslist Casual Encounters that posts by real women who are actually seeking hook-ups are often flagged for removal at the slightest cause for suspicion.
The most common scams are "safe dating" websites. An alleged woman will write a man saying she's interested, but that because of the Craigslist-based serial killers and rapists in the news, she needs some extra assurance that it's safe. If you follow the link she provides, the website asks you for your credit card number — y'know, so it can do a background check to make sure you're not a criminal. One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information.
Yeah, right — moving on! What little luck I'd had so far. The week was half over and I hadn't had a single bite. I decided I would have to take the initiative, so in addition to posting my own ads, I started responding to every ad from any woman who seemed at all interesting.
I cast a wide net in my searches, looking up posts by straight or bisexual women between the ages of 18 and 35 who lived anywhere in Chicagoland — a large metropolitan area that's home to close to five million females. Most of the women wanted something very specific they couldn't find in their normal lives: Someone to help play out a particular fantasy, someone vastly older than them or someone of another race.
Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself.
I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way. It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together. Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial.
There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn.
They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think? Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement.
Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive. We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like.
She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter. But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply. At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep.
She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different. I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men. If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past.
As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy. There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute.
Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I'm not going to shell out money to a website that's all bots. I know there are some women who actually want to just fuck but finding them is the problem. An old gay friend back home told me about this adventures on craigslist and on some gay meetup site.
He posted a cock pic and got dozens of replies from guys in the area looking to blow him or have him fuck them. If only us straight guys had it so easy: This is true, I have found this out the hard way.
There is pretty much no such thing online, you might as well be looking for unicorns. I am a reasonably attractive female and I used POF to find this. We don't all go out to bars every weekend. I'd say I'm a small percentage, but I'm sure I wasn't the only woman on the intimate encounters section at the time. I got tons of messages and it was a good ego boost. And I found just what I was looking for.
So, saying that women never go on there just is not true. I was just hoping there was a website where people are actually looking for sex and only sex. You're horny, you see my picture, you like you see, we meet and fuck and that's it. Thanks for the reply though. Yeah sorry, women don't do it And also because meeting strangers for sex involves a greater inherent danger for women than it does for men.
If not a bar, then a club? You can pick up women anywhere. Doesn't have to be a bar. I don't have anyone to show me the area, either, so it's pretty damn boring. I'm considering just looking for actual friends on some of those dating websites to just learn the area. I banged a MILF once and when I asked what she likes, she told me exactly what she wanted instant boner. What you are looking for isn't really available buddy.
Things either take time, money or effort, usually a combination of two. Cheap, fast, easy, you can only have two. I've slept with a decent amount of women NSA. Most were met online, but not a single one was from a free site that just came over to my house after a few emails.
I've slept with some pretty fantastic women due to websites, but you either have to pay for it the site or the sex , work at it, or give it time. Which is why having a few irons in the fire at all times is a great idea. That way, fast and easy also end up being cheap.
Have 3 or 4 FWBs that you can arrange times with, like the week before, so you're not trawling the internet all night looking for something that doesn't exist. I went on a site called 'Speed date' To make a long story short met with this hot, sexy, tall, athletic guy, best sex I've ever had in my entire life! Btw I'm a woman You should try it, might get lucky ;. Depends on your demographic. For NSA sex with younger women, you either have to: A lot of these sites are filled with spam and fakes.
Some of them will even tell you witch profiles are fake and are there to just get you to sign up if you know where to look. But they are in the minority and hardly have any real profiles anyway. And if you do find a real profile they probably haven't logged in in over a month and won't respond to an email.