Christian Jordal, a licensed family and marriage therapist and certified sex therapist in Philadelphia, says that's a good thing. CasualX is an app designed exclusively for casual relationships. Founded in early , it promises tons of options for people looking to hook up without the confusion of matching with users who might be looking for something more long-term. Li told us one feature that makes it stand out from the crowd is "moments.
And you can see them when you look at anyone's profile. Plus, CasualX has a few key features to enhance user experience. First, they allow you to enable an unlock pattern that'll keep nosy friends from opening the app on your phone. Second, the company verifies each new profile to cut down on fakes, meaning you can feel more confident that you're messaging with a real person.
A spokesperson for CasualX tells us the app now has about 2. Users can browse in the U. Since Grindr's launch in , it's grown from a humble hookup app used by men the world over to an actual content powerhouse. Read more on that in our feature about the site's launch. On Grindr , you can browse the profiles of fellow users in your area.
And by "in your area" we're talking actual distance in feet. The app also tells you when others are online. Per its press kit, the company boasts 3 million daily active users around the world, and an average of million messages sent each day. The app's free for basic use, though users can opt for an upgrade to Grindr XTRA to unlock other features.
These include extra filters, an "online-only" viewing option, no ads, and more. Launched in , the app boasts 1. Chances are, you know it well. After all, "Tinder" is practically a verb at this point. The app popularized the gamification of dating, allowing users to swipe right to like or left to skip on an unending list of nearby users. Sure, we all know plenty of people who've used it for actual dating, but let's be totally honest: We know people who use Tinder to hook up as well.
They key, Spira says, is to just be honest. I have long believed that the secret to finding a lasting partnership is less about meeting the one but rather about meeting some one who you find attractive and interesting but who also — and this is crucial — wants the same kind of relationship that you do at the same time that you want it. This can apply to casual relationships as much as serious ones: Being real friends-with-benefits requires the highest level of emotional honesty and communication in order to make the parameters of the relationship clear and avoid hurt feelings.
Your point that advertising this on your profile may elicit creepy messages is not an irrelevant one, but I do think for maximum efficiency you should be pretty clear that you are looking for something casual because of your existing commitments.
And you do want someone who is very sex-positive. One option is to look for people with similar profiles to yours: If your tastes run to the kinky, you could also consider investigating in apps and sites that are more open about their focus on sex, such as Fetlife.
Once you do decide to meet people, remember to take the same precautions that you would if you were dating for more romantic reasons: Dear Eva, I am 37, a single mom and am looking to find someone , but not a boyfriend. Basically, I want someone to have sex with and not much else.